What's inside Us (A really old song)

Go out and play after every storm
you wanna stay inside where it's nice and warm

but that's where the thunder rolled
that's where the lightning struck
You gotta get on up and dance or you gonna be

really fucked

Every day there's pain and trauma
it's how you move that keeps your life warmer
I won't lie it can't be easy to move on
after all you've been through
after all you've chewed on

But to dance in the flames is a gift from the Gods
of love and lust and what's inside of us.

I'mma sing it to em now
I can love a man so deeply
I can be sharp and true
I can make him weep when I say that
"Baby, you my only boo"
I can make ya fall so hard
ain't no one gonna love ya like I do

But when he hurts me badly
In part because I love him madly
Tears streamin' down my face
Guess I lost this chase

But it's a gift from the Gods to dance in the flames
of Love and Lust and what's inside us

Dear Natey: Ask Abby With A Queens Perspective!

1. Dear Natey,
I love my boyfriend very much, but we have NOTHING in common. He loves showtunes, has horrible taste, and is very much a home-body. I’m a rocker, have a modern taste in everything, and love going out to have a good time. I don’t want to break it off with him, but neither of us will budge on these issues, and we’re fighting a lot. What can I do?

Signed, Modern Taste

Dear Modern,
Part of a healthy relationship is give-and-take between the two of you. If he's playing Broadway music at all hours, get headphones. Perhaps you could meet him half-way on going out. Plan a dinner party and invite your friends, that way he's happy being in, and you get to have a good time with your people. I also suggest setting aside one night a week as "date night." Just the two of you, to keep that flame of love burning. There's nothing better than a romantic, special evening with just the two of you. As far as style goes, that's a very personal subjective thing. If the issue is home decor, go shopping together and find things you both appreciate. If the issue is clothing, you should be doing your best to get him out of them as often as possible.

1. Dear Natey,
My girlfriend is addicted to her smart phone. She’s constantly texting, facebooking, twittering, checking in on 4square, and it’s driving me nuts. We can’t even have a dinner together without her being on her phone for 90% of it. We even get yelled at when we go to movies. Whenever I bring it up she gets very defensive and pouts for hours, of course talking about it on twitter.

Help!, Textually Exasperated

Dear Textually,

Smart phones are the new black. Everybody has one and once they get into them, there's no turning back. How are you bringing the issue up? If she gets defensive when you bring it to her attention, maybe it's time for a new approach. I suggest asking her in a calm collected manner, "Could you please put the phone down for a while? I miss our conversation." Throw something in there about why you fell for her in the first place, and give her hands something to do other than hold her Black Berry.

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